Saturday, December 20, 2008

January



Our holiday vacation was spent tromping through the powdery snows of Utah. Each day started with breakfast, a beautiful scenic walk through a neighborhood surrounded by mountains, and then culminated in various planned outings with friends and family. We made a deliberate attempt not to overplan our days, so we were able to really savor every moment. We shopped, we went out for dinners, saw movies, played laser tag, listened to live music, and generally caught up with my husband's old friends. One night, I was treated to a relaxing Christmas massage, which knocked me right into dream land. It was all pretty relaxing and I thought one of the best parts was just hanging out with the family and occasionally sneaking off to read fiction or to write in my journal.

I am back in school again and overwhelmed with a flurry of papers to write, lectures to attend, appointments to make, and so forth. I have to admit I haven't been in the mood to get back into that groove at all. I'm trying to finish a Stephen King novel I started reading over the break. I also have some cooking projects on the roster. One is my grandma's homemade potato soup and my mom's cinnamon rolls. This past week, I made M&M cookies to help brighten an otherwise gloomy time of year. It seems we need bright colors and festivity in January more than ever. I am doing my best to have candles lighting the grey and to make the house smell welcoming. I can't wait to make a huge kettle of soup, so it is waiting for us when we come home after a night fighting the chilling winds and rains. I feel like my socks and shoes are always damp and it is so hard to feel truly warm these days.

I shall post more soon. Stay tuned...

A Little Behind Schedule


I feel it has been too long since I've posted, so I threw on a photo of a pie I made for Thanksgiving. Now we are on to Christmas already. I have been doing my best to stay out of the holiday shopping frenzies. I'll probably have a little running around ahead when we go to Utah in a few days to visit my in-laws.

I hope to do some writing on our trip. I'll probably bring the beat old spiral notebook that's been gathering dust all quarter while I wrote research papers. I do have to write one short essay about art therapy before the next quarter starts in early January, but it should not be too hard. I just picked up a book called "The Art Therapy Source Book" by Cathy Malchiodi, which seems like an easy read. I also purchased another book for the airplane called "Musiciphiolia" by Oliver Sacks, just for fun. Beyond reading, I hope to get back to some fiction writing/rambling in my notebook.

I had hoped to get to Colorado to visit some old friends for a couple days right after Christmas, but the whole thing didn't gel. Too bad because my friends have built this huge house on some land in the mountains. They have lots of dogs and we could have gone snow shoeing. I have been bummed I won't be going, but I am letting it go because this is the year we will focus on my husband's friends and family. I find I can be stubborn about what I want, but marriage is about some compromise and not letting the small stuff cause problems later down the road. I know, in the past, I have had "my turn" in doing things I wanted to do. I am sure I'll get my turn again.

It snowed here this past week. I know it's bad for people who had to drive or take buses, but being on foot was kind of fun. I put on my sturdy old gortex boots and slid around on sheets of ice. The air is crisply cold on the face and in the nostrils. I find walking in the snow or on the ice kinda tires you out faster than walking on plain concrete. I like to come home afterward and have some warm soup and curl up with a warm blanket.

In spite of the cold, we actually did get out for a pasta dinner at a restaurant the other night with friends from school. Nothing high-end, but there was a gluten-free choice. That was a nice surprise and I wish more Italian places would do that. We also braved the roads and saw the new James Bond movie. I thought it was pretty good, although some of the action scenes seemed over the top to me and I felt a little discombobulated at times. I actually do give it a "thumbs up", although I think I liked the first one better.

Tuesday, September 2, 2008

Still Working

I am still working on our final project this afternoon and our group meets later this evening. I skipped hiking yesterday because of a communication melt down with my friend, but it turned out for the best because I got a lot of work done on my speech that I would not have otherwise.

I am admittedly burned out on school right now. I'm not even looking forward to fall quarter. I feel like I have been taking classes forever, even though I am part-time and have only been in the program for one year. I think I feel creatively blank from all the theories. I used to have a flow of story ideas and now I can't drum up much of anything. It sucks and now I am questioning whether I am really on the right path. I guess I'll tough it out for another quarter if I can finish up this one. I can't wait until my final is over later this week.

Beyond this, I went to the doctor and found out I am very deficient in vitamin D3. I can't believe it because I spend so much time outside with the dogs. I guess there is too much smog and too many tall buildings, so sunlight can't get through. Anyway, I bought some supplements and am supposed to check back in three months to see if my levels are normal. I guess D3 deficiency can give you aches and pains and make you tired and irritable. That seems to describe me lately. I figured it was the pressure of balancing school and work that were making me feel that way.

Friday, August 29, 2008

Almost Done


I'm slugging down some black coffee this afternoon and working on a final project for school. It's a group presentation and will involve some public speaking. I don't mind too much, but I still have to get my slides and my index cards organized. We will be doing a run through next week to make sure we hit the time target.

The sun is out today and there is this perfect late summer breeze coming through the office window. I didn't sleep much last night because I have been nervous about the final, but I feel OK today. If I can get a few hours of homework in tonight, I should be able caught up before my work weekend begins. I also hope to go hiking with a friend on Monday. We will probably do something local and fairly easy. It will be so wonderful to get out in the woods again. I don't even care if it rains.

There have been so many things I have felt like writing down over these past weeks, but school has been my main priority. I did document a few dreams in my "Dream Journal". Some of the images might work in a future story, or I might just look at them to understand myself better. There seem to be a lot of recurring themes and settings that I've kept in my subconscious through the years. I'm sure they are impressions of things I've run across on my life journey...interiors and exteriors of various buildings. Most are beautiful or peculiar or unbelievably grand or elaborate or enormous. Some are very strangely shaped, as though they were built in another country or culture or perhaps shaped by the hands of the dream world. Some are abandoned or crumbling and others are not. There are also many streets and neighborhoods I seem to know...and yet I don't recall if I do. I would imagine a lot of these image were picked up during travels.

I talked a friend from school yesterday and she said she'd like to try going to a dance class with me sometime. I think I might attempt to go once a week in the fall. I've had such a long break from dance, due to graduate school. I tried the weekend warrior drop-in thing for awhile, but all the reading, writing, and deadlines got in the way. I decided it's worth a try to go again in the fall. If not, I'll suffice with maintaining a basic level of fitness and stress management at the gym. I actually like yoga and have noticed it makes me more flexible than ballet did.

One awesome thing is we get to spend a lot of times with the dogs next week. Hubby will be helping because I picked up some extra work. The puppies are so great and I will miss them when fall quarter starts. I'm hoping I can do some more dog walking in the future. It is one of the best jobs ever, but school is kind of throwing a wrench in that too. I would advise that no one go to grad school unless they want to not have much of a life for a few years.

Wednesday, August 20, 2008

Wee Hours...


My last post was short because I wanted to make sure it published on the 20th. That was my parent's anniversary. Now, it is after midnight and the 21st. It's a cool, breezy night, with a smell of rain in the air. A neighbor is smoking a cigarette near the window, so I'm catching a little of that scent as well. I have candles burning in the apartment and I'm printing off some stuff for class tomorrow. I really wouldn't mind having a smoke myself. I certainly deserve one after all the homework I've done. Besides feeling kinda bummed and missing my mom yesterday, I did manage to finish and print this moderately intense research paper for class. Now there is one more big project before the quarter ends and I go on holiday for a few weeks. All I want to do is hike and catch up with family and friends.

I have been obsessed with school, but I do have a fiction story idea clanking around in my mind at times. I've jotted down some notes about it and have been documenting a few ideas I got from some dreams. There was one day last week that I had some free time, but felt uninspired to write anything. I was disappointed, but later that night I had a vivid dream about some characters that might fit into my story or another story I might start down the road. It's hard to say when I can really get going on my idea, but I hope to do a little over the break.

Rainy Day

Today seemed like this long, sorta blah rainy day. I think I'm down because of the weather and the way it reminds me of winter. Plus, today is my biological parent's anniversary. My mom died in 1995. I think it just drums up memories for me. I miss my mom and I feel sad that she is no longer in our lives. Well. Maybe on a spiritual level. But that's not really the same when you wish you could just call her up.

Wednesday, July 16, 2008

Summer Day

Today is a beautiful summer day. I am sipping on cranberry lemonade and eating brown rice tortillas for a late lunch. I had a great time outside with the dogs earlier and then spent some time on the phone catching up with a friend I met in my program. My first research paper for this quarter is done, so I thought I could take a minute to breathe. I hope I can get out and go hiking before I start my next project.

Even though I will miss walking the dogs every single week when school starts this fall, I know it is the right thing to scale back. I don't want to purchase another car and the gas prices are too high to make the whole thing cost effective. Besides, I've noticed that driving in heavy traffic puts me in a grumpy mood and I know it is bad for the planet. My body doesn't really like sitting in a car for long periods either. I usually end up with a bunch of aches and pains.

Friday, July 11, 2008

Friday

It is Friday afternoon I am drinking black coffee and and going back and forth between writing a research paper and checking some of my favorite Internet sites. Sometimes I swear I have the attention span of a gnat. I do like researching ideas and concepts, but I tend to get bored with papers that require regurgitation of information. I prefer papers that allow me to be reflective and tap into my own feelings and insights. Too bad there will be none of that this quarter! I feel I've been stuck behind the computer for the better part of the afternoon. It's been kind of a wacky week with some of my in-laws visiting and my work schedule slightly different. My sleep habits have been pretty sporadic and I haven't been as rested and alert as I'd like to be. I've had some pretty vivid and interesting dreams though. I had started a dream journal over my break and haven't been keeping up with it. It sucks how the dream images only stick with you for about a day and they are gone.

Thursday, July 3, 2008

Fun Over


My short reprieve from school has ended. I'm munching on some cherries and watermelon and getting ready to go to class. At least I got to do a lot of hiking in June and that was f**king awesome. I did get a little sunburn on my face, which I wasn't thrilled about. I can't complain about my own pain, however. My sweetie got actual blisters on one of the outings. He didn't wear a hat or use sunscreen and we got delayed talking to another hiker, so the burn was inevitable. I felt sort of responsible because I'm the one who is quasi-obsessed with getting out in the wild woods and mountains and I didn't help him prepare better. I try to be a good wife in other ways though, like being an amazing vegan cook!

I've been scanning some of my blog entries from the spring and I see I was getting very whiny and complainy about grad-school and all the pressures (blah, blah, blah). I probably need some rational emotive work in the homework area. I hated doing assignments in high school and almost didn't make it through undergraduate because of my tendency to procrastinate. I keep thinking I should be better at all this now, but it's still a pain in the ass. On the brighter side, I do have better study habits at this ripe old age. I actually do read most of the assignments and I try to get a jump on papers, so I am not scrambling last minute. Nonetheless, when it comes to sitting down and starting, I always want to clean the house or run errands or whatever. I also tend to whine about my lack of time for creative writing or amateur art projects. Even keeping up a fun fitness routine that involves hikes or hitting up a dance class. I stop making time for any of it and I get very cranky. It is as if my mind needs time to daydream and be childish or I get very resistant to all attempts at going for my big grownup career as a counselor.

The 4th of July is tomorrow and I have decided to be under duress for the day. I don't have to go to either of my two jobs (Yey!). I will probably bring home a few library books tonight and start a paper that's due in two weeks. I can't believe a paper is due that fast! Anyway, I might do homework and get out for a walk on July 4th, but I am NOT cooking a big meal or driving anywhere. I don't want to deal with mammoth crowds this year. Maybe we will stroll over to a local park if we feel like it, but there is no pressure either way. We will fire up the George Foreman grill and some fresh potatoes and corn on the cob. I am going to make Hubby clean the grill good if he makes chicken though. I get so grossed out if my Tempe gets near that nasty juice. I have not eaten animals, besides fish, for 21 years. I wish we had some watermelon to eat that night, but I already chowed down on what was in the fridge because we were out of room. Our fridge was designed for a dwarf or leprechaun.

Thursday, June 5, 2008

Slowing Down

I am trying to slow down today. I turned in my final yesterday. This quarter has felt like a really long haul and I have questioned whether I am on the right path more than once. I feel a lot better today because one of my professors said some really encouraging things and made me feel like I will likely succeed in my work as a counselor.

Right now I just want to sleep and read what I feel like reading and do nothing. My fitness program has gone out the window and I don't even care right now. I'll pick it up again in awhile. My friend and I are going hiking next week, so maybe that will be a jump start.

Thursday, May 22, 2008

Coffee Break


I turned in a big final paper for Systems Perspectives last night and have to start studying for the exam next week. I took a break after class and watched "Transformers" with my husband. We both agreed the dialogue was cheesy, but there were some cool special effects. Also, I like that Lincoln Park song,"What I've Done" and it was played at the end.

I am now sipping on black coffee and hoping to run a few errands soon. Some of my friends and loved ones have birthdays coming up and I want to get ready for that. There is a small chance we will go to the gym and lift weights tonight, but I don't know for sure because I have to register for summer school.

Hubby is having some major dental work soon, so I have stocked up on macaroni and cheese, frozen fruit for smoothies, and I made a white layer cake with chocolate frosting last night. I am sure he'll be on soft foods for awhile because there is actual surgery involved.

I'll be taking care of the dogs again in a few days. I can't wait to be outside with them everyday. I haven't had any time to be a weekend warrior in dance class lately, but I don't mind so much when I get to play with the puppies a lot. I think I just need breaks from all the heavy studying and worrying about papers and projects. I don't find it very fun. Plus, I wish I had more free time to write in my notebook, draw, collage, and to get outside with my camera. Doug said he wants to go on some local hikes in a few weeks and I can't wait.

Wednesday, May 21, 2008

Staying Steady

It has been a rough month with work, graduate school, and other responsibilities. I have occasionally found myself falling into a negative place where I worry a lot and question my decisions. Because it bothers me that I do that, I have decided to try to cultivate a quality of steadiness in my life. Kind of an "Easy does it" kind of thinking.

I have noticed some types of thinking and physical factors that seem to spur a bout of worrying or questioning and I will list them here.

1. Insisting on knowing EXACTLY how things will turn out. It's like I am looking for a crystal ball.

2. Wanting to have total control of every outcome.

3. Wanting to do everything perfectly and not having any fun.

4. Failing to give myself credit for past successes.

5. Holding my breath, which creates an inability to be completely present.

6. Lack of sleep, which leads to negative thinking.

7. Hypoglycemia, which leads to anxiety.

8. Failing to make a regular fitness program top priority.

9. Neglecting my creative side.

10. Trying to do everything on my own without any help or support.

11. Hormonal shifts.

It has occurred to me today, that the best thing to do is just let go and trust in some kind of higher power. I can't worry about tomorrow because this moment is all I have.

Friday, May 16, 2008

Waiting On a Conclusion


I'm up late again writing for school. I've almost written too much and now have to go back and revise and get that tight, bright, compelling conclusion. I'm bleary eyed and can't even weed through the big mess of words this morning. I should just make myself a cup of warm almond milk and go to bed.

I've allowed grad school to take a toll on me these last couple of weeks. I'm cranky, tense, out of shape. I plan to take a long walk tomorrow, before I wind up stuck to this desk again. Three more weeks until my short summer break. In the meantime, I'm trying to keep my balance by breathing deep, taking some nice walks, and listening to lots and lots of music of all kinds. I hope I can do some drawing for a little while later today...maybe just get out some markers and sketch a few spring flowers. Any step in a creative direction feels like the right move.

Tuesday, May 13, 2008

Big Sigh.

I am tired and depleted. I'm writing a huge paper. I should have started last week, but I had to work a bunch of hours at both jobs. It's late and I am fidgety. This week just feels like no fun at all.

I don't think the Creative Writing and Therapy class is offered this summer, which sucks. I think I might just sign up for one requirement, so I don't spend my whole summer indoors. I hope I can have one more full summer of dog walking and pet-care gigs. I know I probably won't be able to continue that in the fall. Grad school takes too much time and I don't want to buy another car either. My old car is running fine, but those pet care jobs involve driving constantly. I am tired of the commutes and the gas prices and maintenance.

I keep trying to think of a dream job I could get within the next year or so. I still have a part-time job at a radio station, which is OK, but I have been doing it for many, many years. I feel like I am ready for a new adventure. I might go back and work with seniors again. I actually liked being a nursing assistant, although the pay wasn't very good. Money isn't everything though.

I think I am going to take a break from my studies and watch the second half of "2110" with hubby. We had a great supper earlier and there is ice cream waiting. I know it sounds like I'm being bad, but I have been doing homework for hours and hours.

Wednesday, April 30, 2008

Coffee Break


I'm taking a few minutes to have a cup of coffee and blog today. It has been a rainy, overcast week and the temperatures are in the 40s and 50s. I notice people wearing shorts and swim suits in store windows and catalogues and I think the models must not be living here!

I have been digesting the Milan systemic approach to interviewing families this morning and getting ready to write another paper. In my free time, I have started doing more genealogy research. It's been kind of cool, but I have run into a few road blocks along the way. I fear I waited too long to ask about this stuff and a lot of the relatives on my dad's side are now dead. I have noticed there seem to be a lot of cut offs in my family. I'm trying not to follow that pattern and at least check in with the folks now and then.

I dropped in on my favorite dance class last night and then Hubby and I went out for Chinese. Afterwards, we went to a late night book store to write and study. I like it when we have a little weekly ritual like that. Granted I had required reading to do, but it was nice to get away from the house for awhile. Next week, everything is out of sync because I have to take care of a few dogs and will be driving around and staying different places. I love the animals, but I'll have to miss dancing and our little night out together.

I am thinking about summer school. I want to take Creative Writing in Therapy.

Thursday, April 17, 2008

April Fun

It's a quasi-rainy April day and I'm home studying. I had to draw up another genogram and write about my family AGAIN. I think this program is designed to make me face every dysfunctional issue possible before I can start working as a counselor. I know it's good to process all this crap, but sometimes it gets to be a bit much. I'm sure I'll find myself in therapy before it is over. I probably should locate someone good in case the dreaded negative countertransference appears during the course of my work with patients .

Anyway, I haven't written in awhile. It's been tough balancing work and school. I may have to give up dog walking because it's putting too many miles on my car and isn't cost effective anymore. It sucks because I want a dog and we can't have one where we live. I wonder if we can afford to rent someplace with a yard for a bit while I finish this program. It feels like it will be forever before I finish this damned program, by the way. I have been going part-time because of time and money restraints. I also still have a one year internship and two years of supervision ahead. Oh well. Truth is, I actually love what I am doing. I think I just need a school loan and to get better with budgeting and time management.

I'm considering going to Tai Chi class tonight. It's usually kinda cool. Good for stress, if not actual combat.

Friday, March 28, 2008

Time Marches On...


March is almost over and I can't believe it. I will be back in school part-time next week. It's been nice to have a short break and have time to read and make it to a couple dance classes. I''m a weekend warrior in ballet, but it's still fun. Thankfully, I have discovered a great teacher who makes it enjoyable for we older ladies with our aches and pains. I the past, I have felt such a pressure to be so perfect and keep up a fitness level that just isn't possible at this point. I don't like feeling stressed about something that is supposed to be a release for me. I hope I can keep dropping in on this wonderful class when things get busy with grad-school again. It's a constant struggle to balance academic/career life with health. I have actually started taking a weekly Tai Chi class at the gym, which I really love and hope to continue. I admit, I am pretty confused by the form, but I love feeling energized and present. It reminds me of yoga in a way, although it is much easier on my wrists. I have to watch out because I have some strains from working on the computer.

Easter was lovely. My husband bought me a beautiful bundle of tulips and recorded "Here Comes Peter Cotton Tail" off the Canadian channel. I hadn't seen the old Rankin and Bass Easter movie since I was a little kid. We also colored eggs and put together a big Easter basket of chocolate goodies, peeps, and jelly beans. I made a yellow cake with white frosting and colored sprinkles.

I enjoyed Saint Patrick's Day, but felt a little overwhelmed with food and drink. I think we should have chosen one or the other. Our friend Doug was with us and I wanted us all to have drinks. It was great, but we wound up walking downtown and decided to add food to the equation. This might be the Irish in me, but I usually do one or the other (not both). There was no drink on the food menu that I wanted to order, which is no surprise because I'd been enjoying gluten free beer (my favorite) at home. I wound up eating a rather heavy dinner and then had tummy troubles. The dinner would have been fine by itself, by the way. I just can't deal with both very well. Anyway, we saw a pretty good movie called "Juno" and all was well.

Not much else to report today. The weather has been dramatic with snow and rain and sudden sun breaks. I have been walking the dogs in it. Sadly, the old Mama dog I've written about on this blog passed on on the 18th. It was a sad day and we are still not fully recovered. I think I tried to cheer us up with Easter celebrations, but the grief still lingers. So much more I could say about this, but I have already written a lot about it in my paper journal.

Monday, March 17, 2008

Saint Patrick's Day

Today is a beautiful early spring day. The weather is cool, but blissfully sunny and flowers are blooming everywhere. I walked the dogs this afternoon. The old mother dog I mentioned in my last post was still hanging in there. Her eye looked a little sore, so I asked her owner about getting some eye drops. Everything was green and lovely outside. There were a few clouds here and there behind the luminescent cherry blossoms.

Our good friend Doug is over today and we are all going out for dinner and a movie. I may have a couple gluten free beers later, but I have no interest in the green drinks served at most bars tonight. I am rather annoyed by the leprechaunization of this Irish holiday. Most of us here in the states are so assimilated that we know nothing about our cultures. I know many Irish people tried to blend, so their offspring could have better lives. The sad part is that most of us have lost the stories of our ancestors. I find myself wondering who these people were. Did they look like me or act like me? I do know my grandmother, Evelyn, spoke proudly of her Irish culture at times. I wish I'd asked her more questions about the family while I had a chance though. For today, I will think of her and and remember her fiery Irish spirit. She was not one to brood about things. She loved to dance and sing and enjoy a good stiff drink. Occasionally, she liked to exaggerate things for some good story telling. She told me once that she lived most of her years with a sense that it was never going to end.

Friday, March 14, 2008

The Ides of March

Tomorrow is March 15th. In Shakespeare's time the day represented impending doom. I don't want to seem superstitious, but the day does fill me with a certain dread. In spite of the fact that the Ides of March is the name of one of my favorite Iron Maiden tunes, it is also a day when painful events have occurred in my past. The first event occurred in 1985, when a relationship I had with a boy transitioned into something that tore us both apart and forced me to suddenly grow up in ways I did not want to. The second event occurred ten years later, when my mom passed away in the early hours of the morning. That was a silent day, where everything seemed to move in slow motion.

Years have gone by where nothing major has occurred on March 15th. In spite of it's significance, I have often lived right through it without many sad reflections about the past. I don't mean that I have stopped feeling sad about what happened to my mom, but the intense grief seems to crop up on random dates instead of on the literal date of her passing. This year, I think I feel more down because I am dealing with a current situation that is hard. I have been taking care of some border collies for a woman over the last couple of years and one of the dogs has been diagnosed with Leukemia. For the last month, I have been watching this old mother dog slip further and further downhill. The last time I saw her was Thursday and she was looking very weak and sad. I don't walk her very far anymore, but the old girl could barely make it across the street. I sense the end is near. I patted her on the head this last time and asked her if she could please not die on March 15th! I know that's a tall order for a poor dog on her last legs, but I don't want another sad event to happen on that day. I realize I don't actually have any real control here.

It's always seemed strange that March 15th has historically been such bad day. It's right near Saint Patrick's Day, which I've always loved. When I was a kid I'd decorate my parent's home with green streamers and hanging shamrocks. This year, I have two giant green shamrocks on our front door and we plan to go out on the town with our friend Doug on the 17th. It's as if the Ides of March moves in to taunt me with it's horrible ways and then it's followed by this festive day of Irish cheer. I wrote a poem about that once. It was called "It's Saint Patrick's Day for God's Sake". My grandmother, Evelyn, was Irish and she wasn't much for brooding about things. She was more the dust yourself and try to enjoy the time you have left type. Maybe I've taken on some of that Irish refusal to completely cash in my chips, even when everything seems to suck.

Monday, March 10, 2008

Been Awhile

It has been awhile since I've written here. I have tons of excuses that are mostly school related. It is hard to feel inspired to blog when you are mired down in textbook work, ongoing class journals, discussions, and papers. I am wiped out. Also, spring hit in February, so my allergies have been really bad. I was taking meds, but the side effects were not worth it. When I was on Zyrtec, I was bloated, tired, and grumpy. Claritin just made me feel like I had the flu all the time. Now, I take a little Benadryl here and there. Mostly, I just tough it out with kleenex and aspirin. I think I sneezed a total of 100 times today and have been rubbin' my red, puffy eyes. My symptoms improve slightly when I stay indoors, but usually I don't want to.

I haven't decided if I'll go to summer school yet. I might do it to burn through to my internship faster. Maybe I can take an elective and it won't be too stressful. I feel a little behind some of the other students because I am working and taking classes part-time. Even the older students seem to have loans and have managed to quit their jobs while in grad school. Eventually, I'll probably get some type of loan. I am not in a hurry to do that though. I'd rather just cut back on expenses where ever possible. I even considered putting a hold on driving my car for awhile to keep the miles down. At the rate I'm going, I will probably need a new car in another year or so. I thought about changing my lifestyle, so everything is close to home. I could still use the vehicle for a couple essentials, but not that much. Cars are such a money drain! My husband usually uses public transportation, so it is not an issue for him.

Overall, I feel pretty good about this quarter at school. I can't wait for the break after this week, however. We get two whole weeks to do as we please. One of my fellow students said she thought about reading ahead for some of her classes. There is no way I am doing that! I plan to rest, catch up with friends, drink gluten-free beer, walk dogs, write for myself, catch up on movies and fiction books, and just be. If I feel motivated, I may even hit some dance and Tai Chi classes. All that stuff went by the wayside once grad school started. I will probably write more here too. It's mostly a lot of mundane crap, but I enjoy posting stuff. I finally retrieved my password, so that makes it easier.

Friday, January 4, 2008

Window Lady

She sits by the window
Pink robe
Peers at the rain drops
Like tears down someone's face
Another year and the shadows
grow beneath her eyes

Nurses hurry
strawberry ice cream and TV
Glazed stares
as evening stars
and years pass
Sometimes there is her daughter's hand
Blue business suit
and cell phone
chocolate candy tastes good
Her voice sounds underwater

Somewhere in the back of her mind
people are dancing on
black and white linoleum
Jazz plays and cigarettes are smoked
Love is intoxicating
Laughter deep
No way to tell them
No way to keep up her home
or pet the dog
or plant hyacinths in the garden
No more spring baskets or snow covered trees
Just the window
Seasons turn
Shadows grow beneath her eyes

Thursday, January 3, 2008

Chicago Summer

Florescent pinks and greens
are the sidewalk chalks we wield
over hula hoop circles
in well worn lawns
with our brown feet
flying above the sprinkler
swooshing through the turquoise
wading pool in my
frog patch bathing suit

Nana beckons with pretzels
in wax paper
from the dim kitchen of the town house
She warns me to stay out of
the shatter glass, garbage can, black paint
alley way
and I do
smelling lavender lilacs
eating purple popsicles and chewing grape gum
Dancing in the blue green water color afternoon

House Sounds

He was left with creaking floors
in the night
and the shifting sound of an oil heater
Sometimes he could imagine
she was still walking
across the rugs
or hanging her robe on the brass hook at bed time
But only the voices of wind chimes
on the porch spoke to his loneliness
The melancholy tones reminding
that half of him had been ripped away

Years later, he chose to survive
and began to collect new sounds
Small, quiet notes at first
A new friend
The song of a shared laugh
Somehow, bit by bit
an orchestra emerged
Loud and discordant at times
But boldly alive

When I visit him now
the rooms are full of clocks ticking
Busy voices
mingling with a dripping faucet
or the heater clicking on
But having been away
so long
I feel the emptiness
and racing in my heart
whenever those foreboding chimes
are blown in motion
Occasionally, they sound like her
or angels hearing all my thoughts

Tricky

Third story balcony
It all tumbles down
like a sad sunset
a glued up glob of orange

Glimmer, shimmer
Cigarette, spray paint
Silver, green burns
Brown bottles downed
Everything is funny

Way up here
Paper skinny
Cartoon tall
Eye sockets growing shadowy
over a soiled grin

Your horrified face looks like
a Black Cat firecracker in the bottom
of a Halloween bag
Your tricky as a wall full of African masks
trying to paint an outline in street colors

With your sense of humor
and prankster ways, it is as funny as bubble gum
Cold, frosty, pink and blue
If a steam roller flattened you any flatter
you'd be a tick of juicy fruit for the devil

Random Memory

It was raining and the neon greens, blues, and pinks reflected up from the pavement. I slurped up the last of the sweet soda and threw the striped bag from the fast food place in the trash. I couldn't finish the chewy greasy burger and fries inside. I missed my mom's homemade meals. The night before we'd tried to choke down a frozen pizza piled high with some nasty spiced hamburger meat. I was picky about food as it was, so I was looking pretty gaunt in my burgundy plaid dress.

My pa took the job as motel manager, because employment opportunities were lean. They gave us a two room apartment off the back of the front office. It smelled like cleaning products and endless amounts of drying sheets and towels. I slept on a metal springed cot in the backroom. I spent a lot of time there reading Nancy Drew novels and "Casper the Friendly Ghost" and "Archie" comic books. There was canned soda to drink and Oh Henry bars for 25 cents. I spent a huge amount of time daydreaming.

It was the early 70s, so my pa was playing a lot of folk music on his guitar. He was whip thin and wore a Stetson. He played records like Neil Diamond, the sound track to "Midnight Cowboy", and 45s like "Seasons in the Sun" and "Alone Again, Naturally". He'd roll cigarettes from tobacco in a pouch and it seemed he was often swearing.

Things had started to get pretty boring for me at the front desk, except for the chocolate bars, which were going fast. But then Sara checked into the motel and I think she livened things up for both of us. She was a robust young woman with short, dark, shiny hair. She was loud and wrote her songs that she strummed out in the lobby and later on the shabby couch in our makeshift living room. Apparently, she had been in the hospital and was running away from someone. I didn't really understand. I only knew she talked to me, which was cool, and she eventually bought me a guitar. It came with a book and I learned some chords during her visit. Pretty soon I was playing "Down in the Valley" almost perfectly.

I remember resting on my cot one afternoon and Sara was at the desk with pa. Everything seemed normal until the front door opened and a bunch of people piled in. Some lady, who was apparently related to Sara was speaking in high pitched loud tones. She was ordering Sara to come with her and the others. The sound of her voice scared me, so I tiptoed to the front room.
The group of adults stared at me and the high pitched lady said something about a guitar. I guess Sara told her she'd bought me one and the other woman was angry about it. She was also upset because Sara wasn't being compliant. Then, this weird bald guy showed up. He had a face like a weasel and little wire rimmed glasses. He grabbed Sara and pulled out a syringe. That scared me a lot cause I hated shots. Sara was crying and yelling, asking stuff like, "can't I buy a present for a little girl?" My pa gruffly announced no one had authority to bother Sara at the motel while he was in charge. For a moment or two it was silent, but then the group then....I can't remember what happened, but they drug Sara away. I could hear her protests fading as the unwanted visitors carried her to the parking lot.

To this day, I'm not even sure what happened exactly. Who she was. Why she was on the run. But I do know I kept the guitar for a long time. I took it to a birthday party a few years later and won a talent contest for playing and singing "One Hundred Miles". I think the prize involved some yummy candy.

Green

My favorite was green
and used to think
the Lord was car floormats
because they were blue
and I'd look at them
on rainy days
with windshield wipers going
and it felt the same
as crying into my pillow
and seeing him with golden hair
while my heart beat in my ears

I 'd hear so much it scared me
Branches moving, crickets chorus,
the screech of a horse whinny,
telephone wires talking.
The orchestra kept me awake
all night or I'd drift,
dream a strange voice,
and awaken in terror

There were monarch butterflies
and rainy days with
grey puddles, yellow coats,
and the roar of busses like lions
There were blue corduroys and
homemade frosted sugar cookies
that seemed to last forever
Grass so brightly green
you wouldn't believe it
and clouds rumbled in the sky
like giant heavenly gears

Untitled


A sophistry in laundry soap

on creaky floors

in Morse code

a bird's eye view

of you

on roller skates

The fitful

slipping vision

Tuesday, January 1, 2008

New Year's Day

It's been a long time since I've posted here and I hope to change that. This last quarter at school was so busy with reading and writing and I could hardly take a break. Then we were hit with the hustle bustle of the holidays. I tried to avoid the craziness, but seemed there was so much happening that I had no time to journal in my notebooks or to blog here.

Last night, hubby and I had one of my dear old friends, Doug, over and we watched the extended version of "Fellowship of the Ring" and pigged out on various treats. We made "almost vegan" shrimp dip with soy cream cheese and 100-percent vegan Mexican pizzas. There were lots of veggies, crackers, chips, and stuff to drink. We opted for no alcohol, however, because I had to work today. It seems like subtracting booze makes for less drama with me anyway, although it might have been okay to have a grasshopper with soy ice cream. My mom always made those on New Year's Eve. We did have various kinds of ice cream on hand, but we were all too stuffed to eat it.

I am glad to NOT have a hangover and to get double pay for working today. I hope to go out and buy a new soup kettle tomorrow. We have been cooking in a chipped Teflon thing and I shudder to think of how much toxicicity it has inflicted upon us. I did read an article that said artificial fragrances are a much bigger threat than flaking Teflon chips and fumes. I'm a sucker for all those lotions at Bath, Body, and Beyond, so I'm probably slowly killing myself anyway. Oh well. I'm taking a drive out to a department store to get a copper or stainless steel kettle tomorrow. We have a gift certificate from my husband's aunt, so I'll try to get something sturdy. I have all the ingredients for a delightful vegan stew (potatoes, purple cabbage, shrooms, celery, broccoli, carrots, peas, and more) just waiting in the cabinets and fridge.

School starts next week, so I hope to squeeze in a little chill time (even though I'll be working Thurs.-Sun.). I have been reading bad fiction, like the latest V.C. Andrews and other books I got for Xmas from my sister-in-law. There's a book called "The Time Traveler's Wife" and another called "Garden Spells". I forget who the authors are at the moment. I also want to read some young adult novels that have some positive press. The bottom line here, is I am reading whatever the Hell I feel like for a little bit longer! In another week, I'll be glued to textbooks and writing 20+ page papers on a regular basis. I made a New Year's resolution to write in my paper journal and to do more creative writing here and there. I'm going to try and fit it in, even if I only have half an hour per day while in grad school.

There are so many more things I could write or say about our trip to visit family and seeing my childhood home. I dug around the garage and basement and in my mom's old trunk (she has been dead since 1995). There were still some beautiful, hand made Christmas ornaments that I managed to haul home. Many of the decorations were made by my grandmother on my mom's side. There were some items that were store bought, but they have special meaning to me. I couldn't take everything, but did the best I could with one extra suitcase. It was so lovely to unpack some of it last night and take out a couple things to use for our new Year's Eve get together. Over the next week, I'll put it into storage and know it is there for future Decembers.